Whenever you think of gay dating apps, Grindr, Scruff, and Sniffies likely come to mind. These platforms thrive off of thirsty dudes looking to get laid. But a new report (aptly titled “The Naked Truth“) from Archer, a relatively new dating app (owned by the Match Group, which also owns Tinder, Hinge, and other apps), suggests a shift in how gay men are using apps, and ultimately, how they’re viewing dating itself. It turns out gay men on Archer are actually nearly six times more likely to be looking for a husband than a hookup!
Launched in June 2023, Archer is what the company describes as a “social-first” alternative to some of those more hookup-focused, location-based apps out there, like Grindr and Sniffies. The app’s main push is really about offering gay, bisexual, and queer men a more intentional dating experience, with a solid focus on building community and helping everyone stay safe with its in-app Health Hub.
Since its App Store debut, Archer has managed to get quite a bit of attention as a new player in the gay dating app scene. (Which it totally should — I’ve attended some great events that Archer has sponsored in NYC, and the team seems genuinely interested in helping people find their forever person!) With over 685,000 downloads by May 2024 (a feat considering the financial news in the dating app world has been generally bleak as of late), Archer is definitely backing up its claims with solid data.
What gay men really want, according to Archer’s survey of 550 of its users
Archer’s first annual trends report, “The Naked Truth,” shows that users aren’t just looking for an afternoon delight. Here’s what they found:
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Five and a half times more users are interested in finding a husband than a hookup.
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Users are three times more likely to say they’re looking for a “love story” than “random sex.”
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Fifty-seven percent of gay singles say that they’re open to trying new things sexually, whereas 20 percent say that they’ve got their kinks and are happy sticking to them.
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Green flags like good communication and emotional intelligence are way more important than a steamy romp.
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Salt Lake City, Tampa, and Denver topped the list for the highest percentage of tops. Cincinnati, Columbus, and Minneapolis were the most bottom-heavy.
“Dating within the gay community is all about choice, fluidity, and the freedom to define what connection means in the moment,” Michael Kaye, head of brand at Archer, said in a press release. “‘The Naked Truth’ shows us that our users value authenticity and intention. They’re not just seeking endless matches — they’re choosing their own journey on their own terms.”
How Archer is meeting users where they are
Since its launch, Archer has been committed to creating a safer space for gay men to connect. Its newest feature, “Looking For Modes,” is just one example of how it’s doing that.
With “Looking For Modes,” users can make their intentions known right away. As soon as daters open the app, they’ll be able to choose between “Hookup,” “Date,” and “Friends Mode.” They’ll also be able to add temporary status updates, like “Looking for now,” “Open to chat,” or “Down to meet,” in real-time.
Credit: Archer
Archer has also taken a page out of Hinge’s playbook with what it’s calling “Ice Breakers.” These are prompts that you can add to your profile for others to respond to. This way, you don’t have to send an awkward “hey” just to be left on read. (Another cool thing about Archer’s “Ice Breakers” is that any user who has them on their profile will get a visibility boost on the app.)
Some of the most popular “Ice Breaker” prompts include:
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Describe your favorite sex position using only emojis.
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If you had to lip-sync for your life, which song would you choose?
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Be famous for being messy on reality TV or famous for a one-hit wonder pop song?
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If we had to coordinate Halloween costumes, what duo are we going as?
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What’s the most unhinged reason you’ve ever stopped talking to someone?
And, while Archer was free at launch, it unveiled a premium subscription service, Archer Gold, in May. It costs $29.99 for one month or $59.99 for three months. With Archer Gold, users can go incognito, change their location, access advanced filters, see who’s viewed their profile, and receive read receipts.